Solo Crone vs Families

I’m afraid I have bumped up against the dreaded family vacation. I loathed them when I was part of a family, as a solo traveller it isn’t any better but for different reasons. I have been mulling and muttering for a few days now about why I am feeling so crowded by them… this while I am wandering around with my laptop, trying to find a wi-fi signal where they are not. That hasn’t worked out so well.

The common area.

The common area.

See, there are now 2 families who are friends, that means in this communal area there can be up to 7 people, plus the 3 that work here plus me, or yeah, and a whippet named Wooly(don’t ask). Even a big room can start feeling a tad too cozy, especially with 3 loud, indulged children. But there is something else at play as well. I mean they just take up so much room, literally and figuratively, the oxygen gets sucked up and the noise level reaches a feverish pitch, energy becomes frenetic and I go silently screaming into the night… gasping for air.

Wooly and I recovery from a morning of family chaos!

Wooly and I recovery from a morning of family chaos!

So, what I have come up with is this: families are a closed circle with the children in the middle and all the resources are poured into them. (generalization alert) So anyone on the outside of their unit is excluded. The parents generally don’t have the time or energy to spare for goodness sake. Now the exception is, of course, other families, especially if they are friends. The circle opens to include them as long as they hold the same basic parental attitudes. Bigger circle, bigger resources, bigger noise.Β  Good for them, not so much for me.

Really this is only an issue because of the communal layout of this place. It would maybe come up if I was trapped on a boat with some. But seriously, seeing first hand all the endless negotiations, discussions, whining, indulging picky eaters… it is exhausting witnessing it. I can’t (and frankly don’t want to) imagine actually doing it day in and day out. By the time they decide what all of them want for breakfast – “who will eat what, should someone go up and ask him? Oh and what time should we eat? Ah, what time did she get up yesterday? blah blah blah” !!!!!!!!!!!!! Then as I am reeling down the path for a nap to recover, they started in on poor Maria about their excursion tomorrow. Bless her little heart, she just kept smiling and nodding till she looked like a pretty little Mexican bobble head.

The bottom line is there is nothing to be done about it and Goddess knows I do not want to be part of any negotiations with people who do it 24/7. I just have to suck it up and navigate around them best I can. And not let them come on any excursions with me, even if I have to pay a wack of money to go alone. Spending the day trapped on a boat with them would turn ugly before we left the harbor and since they outnumber me by a lot, I don’t think I could win that one. Then I would find myself dog paddling back to land.

Have any of you come up againstΒ  family vacations? I’d love to hear your take on it and how you coped. Or do you think I am a cranky crone who should start worshiping at the altar of ‘The Family is All Important’ like 99% of the population of earth?

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22 thoughts on “Solo Crone vs Families

    • Oh gawd yes I am enjoying this soooo much even in the face of such adversaries as the family unit. hahahaha (I am questioning the wisdom of replying to comments under the influence of tequila and sugar… nah, it’s all good)

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  1. Oh, I feel your pain. I have been lucky to have (so far) avoided being stuck with families on a vacation. I go out of my way to avoid traveling to/staying in their realms. And yes, I would give up a day trip or pay extra if it meant not being with them! They suck! There, I said it!

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    • oh thank you for this, I thought for sure I was setting a fire-storm of shit to rain down on my head for daring to write such sacrilegiousness. (I think I just made up that word.. fueled by tequila and sugar, my creativity knows no bounds. πŸ™‚

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      • I think more people need to speak up about it. These kids are learning that it’s perfectly okay to have a lack of respect and consideration for the personal space of others. Can you imagine how the world will be when they are all adults? Shudder.

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        • Ha! THIS. Great post TC, I think I might be as ‘intolerant’ of family vacation places as you. I’m not anti-children, but the number of ADD/often disrespectful kids I’ve come across has caused me to put great effort into researching potential sleeping/dining/resting. I don’t want to even begin imagining how some of these kids are going to behave as adults… *groans*

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  2. Oh haha! You are bang on about other peoples’ families. I get plenty of exposure on the BC ferries. I swear to god that every whining demanding kid and their long-suffering mother who deserves to suffer because of her milk toast attitude sits right in front of us. We have found that the only place to sit to avoid this is right beside the video arcade πŸ™‚ Soldier on, Donnae!!

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  3. my first solo trip was to cancun. my trip was booked by the agent, who was my friend as well. bad idea. she booked me into a resort that catered for families. i am not one for screaming kids and parents just sitting around oblivious to the noise and chaos created. i have nothing against children, i just cannot experience relaxation with them around. i am not a parent and so dont understand the dynamics too well but i love my peaceful environment especially on a vacation. since then i have booked into adults only places and just love it.

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  4. Family is important but even as a Mom, I’m terribly aware of others’ “brats”. I’ve always encouraged my boys to be respectful of others (and me) by not rampaging everywhere at the top of their lungs! It isn’t necessary. Hope you can find peace soon! πŸ™‚

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    • Yes! They are all leaving today, I (and, I think, the staff too) are looking forward to curling up on the couch and quietly reading tonight. The 11 yr old girl singing ‘opera’ was a tad too much. πŸ™‚

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  5. Haha, I do feel sorry for you but it makes amusing fodder for the rest of us. I agree wholeheartedly with you but what is it they say – “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”?? Go the tequila and sugar!!!

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  6. Donnae…yes I do understand… the challenges and frustration of family vacations. where my sister and i did ok at ENP just the 2 of us, it is much more stressful when we bring our families together on vacations. i love her to death, but we parent differently; i am fair but firm. she tends to give in. makes for a slightly ‘spoiled’ child that frustrates me and my family… it seems our vacation often revolves around the whim and manipulation of my nephew. but of course, every parent thinks there child is the angel… right? ah well, hang in there!! πŸ™‚

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    • Families, man they are like separate solar systems, who when they get too close to other systems, cause all sorts of shit. Buttons, boundaries, issues, triggers… messy. I can’t imagine the churning when the 2 families are of sibs. Or when a crone gets thrown into the mix. πŸ™‚ Crap, it is like a giant science experiment out there.

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  7. Hi TC, I’ve been off line for a month dealing with a sick parent and I am just now catching up with reading and posting…laughed out loud at this post and I feel your pain. When we are in an RV park our favorite time is Sunday afternoon when all the families pack up and head home, by Monday we usually have the campgrounds to ourselves. I also always ask to be placed as far from the pool and play area as possible. Judith

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    • Hope your parental unit is doing better.
      I went camping up the north island and I stayed at a camp ground that had a section for big RV’s and one for tents. I was so glad I was in the tent section because the kids over at the other area were totally wild and under no visible supervision. I actually wondered if they were kids raised by wolves that snuck in, but no self-respecting wolf would allow that behavior! Bet you never thought you’d ever like Mondays! πŸ™‚

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